by Sri Regine Lherisson-Bey
A lot of people wish to be slim and fit, however, they often face the issue of tremendous sabotage of their fitness goals. Some of the reasons for the sabotage happen to be:
- Inadequate nutrition and toxic self-care.
- Mindless choice of words and repetition of such words that produce the effect of negative reinforcement.
- Covert societal programming that causes self-sabotage at the subconscious level.
- Lifelong unconscious negative linguistic programming acquired since the pre-birth stage. It can lead people to use self-defeating language without even being aware of it.
- Unresolved or unaddressed emotional issues.
Unfortunately the above reasons often lead to frustrations and self-doubt. This situation is a form of trap that coerces people to give up their fitness goals or get on the treadmill of yo-yo dieting.
The issue of self-sabotage affects just about everyone, regardless of age, family upbringing, income, education, social status, gender, etc. Even though self-sabotage can be ubiquitous when it comes to fitness, it is however not undefeatable.
The impact of word combinations on one’s personal life is likely to be a novelty to most people. No matter how obscure or unfamiliar the concept may be, it can make or break your fitness goals. Based on such a fact, it is essential to look deeply into the matter and change your choice of words if you wish to stop ongoing self-sabotage.
The subconscious mind is acutely aware of every word we say. It interprets everything literally. Because it is like a computer program, one of its innumerable tasks is to execute commands and find vibrational matches to the person initiating the commands. Besides being literal, the subconscious mind has no sense of humor. It uses key words in any combination of words, takes the key words as a command and acts upon them. Be mindful of your words!
“Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your behavior.
Your behavior becomes your habits.
Your habits become your character.
Your character becomes your values.
Your values become your destiny.”
The following five tips can be of help to readers who choose to take the matter into their own capable hands and turn a dire situation around. Here are some of the most dreadful word combinations to stop using if you wish to be slim:
1. “I am on a diet.” – What a waste… Diets don’t work and never will. Why? The word diet has a connotation of deprivation. Diets involve restrictions and the mind is not fooled. The subconscious — which often acts like a child — does not tolerate deprivation.
When under the imminent threat of deprivation, it goes into trepidations. It makes up for any sense of deprivation by producing more… fat. It is a known fact that fat is a primordial element in survival. Fat storage is naturally associated with adequate preparation for self-sustainability in case of accidental occurrence of lack or starvation. One must have reserves in order to survive. That is how nature sees it. This caveat has been encoded in the human psyche for times immemorial.
In essence, the word ‘diet’ can send a signal to the subconscious mind that it is to prepare itself to counteract deprivation and fight for survival. The way it does so is by generating more fat cells, regardless of dieting or restrictions. That is one of the reasons why some people in fight or flight mode sometimes gain unwanted weight just by eating salads only.
Many diets programs lead people to feed themselves in ways that violate the most basic and fundamental scientific principles of human nutrition. All that is done for the purpose of acquiring short term gratification that later backfires.
Useful suggestion: Stop using the words “I am on a diet.” and replace them with: “I am on a fitness plan.”
Affirmation: “I have chosen a fitness plan to stabilize my weight”. “I choose to better care for myself by making sensible lifestyle changes.”
2. “My obesity is killing me.” – As seen above, your choice of words oftentimes determines your future. The main issue with phrase #2 is twofold.
First, it sends a dramatic command to the subconscious to terminate your program based on the poor choice of words.
Second, it carries a sense of ownership of the obesity you are looking to manage. Whatever you take hold of and consider to be yours, you get attached to it, and soon enough, the attachment becomes mutual.
It is some people’s choice to let certain situations kill them, and everyone is entitled to their own choices. If allowing something to kill you is not part of your plan, then you will benefit from revising your semantics.
Useful suggestion: Stop taking ownership of the obesity. Taking ownership of something gives it power over your mind. Replace the word ‘My’ with “This” or “That” (to distance the issue from you even more). Plus avoid the word ‘killing’ that indicates a termination of your life’s program.
Affirmation: “I choose to become fit and trim.”
3. “I have lost weight.” – Just as we have discussed in phrase #1 above, the conscious mind is sensitive to certain key words. Similarly to ‘deprivation’ and ‘dieting’, the subconscious mind’s reaction to ‘loss’ is: “I will find what has been lost!” Make no mistake: whatever you claim to have lost, your subconscious will do everything in its power to find it. There is no need to underestimate that feat: the subconscious mind is pre-programmed to perform it.
Useful suggestion: If you do not want to get the weight back on, do not claim (or affirm) that you have ‘lost’ it. In my book, GET SLIM EFFORTLESSLY
, I recommend perishing the use of the words ‘weight loss’ in combination with each other. The recommendation goes further with the suggestion of replacing the unfortunate words “loss” and “lose” with: “shed”, “release”, “let go”.
Affirmation: “I am releasing unwanted weight and letting go of excess fat easily and effortlessly.”
4. “I am trying to be fit.” – The word ‘try’ usually comes across as an excuse stated in advance to rationalize failure or self-sabotage. People who act with definiteness of purpose do not try: they either do or do not do. When you use the word ‘try’ you send a message that you are not serious about reaching your goal.
Just look around you and listen to the people you know. Those who routinely state in their conversations that they have been ‘trying’ to ‘lose weight’, are still trying. And they have been trying for decades. It is this mindless trying process that has kept them yo-yo dieting all life long.
Society programs people for failure, using their own words. It is the equivalent of testifying against oneself. When you stop trying and start doing, you send a signal to your subconscious mind that you are taking action proactively and are serious about the results you are looking to yield. A lot of people do not take the time to think of what they are saying but instead repeat certain ideas on auto-pilot. They are not aware that they have a program running. Thinking that they are stating their own words, they sabotage themselves as a consequence of mindless programming.
There are other dimensions of awareness about ‘trying’. For instance, some people are stuck in trying mode for prolonged amounts of time. Due to various fears that control them, staying in the rut of trying may be their safest place until the fears get resolved. For these individuals, until the cause of the fear is addressed, they will keep managing the recourse of ‘trying’ even if it is the uncomfortable and unproductive thing to do.
Useful suggestion: Replace the word trying with “doing”, “making it work”, “working on it”, “giving it my best”.
Affirmation: “I choose to take courageous steps toward having a slim body.”
5. “I‘ve been dieting but can’t get my weight down.” – Not surprising: you know by now what dieting does to you. Whether you think you can or can’t, you are right. Maybe you have been trying too much or too hard to reach your goal, oblivious to the fact that ‘trying’ is self-defeating. It is in doing wholeheartedly that we get results.
Useful suggestion: Replace can’t with ‘eventually will’.
Affirmation: “I accept to work with the wisdom of my inner timing in releasing extra weight. I choose to allow the impossible to become possible.”
Just remember, when there is a will, there is a way. Nothing takes the place of persistence.
The subconscious runs the show at least 95% of the time. This is a fact confirmed by science and ratified by Neurolinguistic Programming. The principles of mind over matter have been demonstrated in more than enough ways to prove the veracity of the above-mentioned facts and recommendation.
One of the most major keys to shedding unwanted pounds and becoming fit and trim is to practice gradual lifestyle changes through: mindfulness, energy repatterning, exercising in moderation (even if it is a 1/2 hour walk daily), self-detoxification, and eating a sensible diet.
The above principles are the surest and safest way to shift from fat to fit without dieting and in a permanent way.